"The best of the author's 'dance' trilogy... A remarkable, beautifully written book, illuminating ways for women to find integrity, courage, and voice in a world that rewards female silence and pretense." -- Carol Tavris, author of The Mismeasure of Woman From sexual faking to family secrets, Dr. Harriet G. Lerner reveals how the struggle toward truth-telling is at the center of our deepest longings for intimacy, authenticity, and self-regard. Drawing on more than two decades of clinical experience, Dr. Lerner articulates her rich philosophy and thoughtful guidelines about speaking out and holding back. With the passion, humor, and clarity that have become her trademark, Lerner unravels the lies, secrets, and silences own and others -- that affect our lives, and teaches us how to widen the path to truth-telling for everyone. '"Ihere's not one false note in this brilliant and radical investigation of what we conceal from ourselves and others -- and why it matters." -- Holly Near Stunning in its impact... This is a book to be read and re-read." -- Betty Carter, Director, Family Institute of Westchester, New York HARRIET G. LERNER, Ph.D., is one of the most respected authorities on the psychology of women and the process of change in families. She is a clinical psychologist and psychotherapist at the Menninger Clinic in Topeka, Kansas, and a distinguished lecturer, consultant, and workshop leader. Her bestselling books, The Dance of Anger, The Dance of Intimacy, and Women in Therapy, have sold over two million copies and have been published in more than twenty-five foreign editions. Dr. Lerner writes a monthly advice column for New Woman magazine.